As you sit down with a cup of your favorite warm or cold beverage and move around quite a few times to reach the ultimate comfort zone; I pose a question, what is comfort?
Comfort according to the dictionary is a state of physical ease and freedom from pain or constraint. What the dictionary does not tell us is how comfortable it becomes to be uncomfortable for the sake of another human being. From the very moment you find out you are expecting things within you begin to change. You are first filled with the excitement of the idea of having an innocent child in your arms. Thoughts like, is this really happening, run through your pores. Wow, a baby! That peace and gentle grin kicks in and no one knows the reason why you are walking around with such a peaceful grin but you. People begin to wonder what is different about you, and on the inside you are dying to yell it from the rooftops: I am pregnant! Yet the time is too soon to share the news, and the waiting begins… The first doctor appointment to confirm the great news finally arrives after what seems like and endless amount of time. You walk out of that appointment with a checklist of things you must now go buy to make sure your growing baby is comfortable. First stop, the drug store for a pill crusher! Those prenatal vitamins are huge but you know you have to drink them in order for the baby to grow strong and healthy. Second stop, mom’s house for some spoiling. You begin to share the news with your closest family members but the doctor says we still have to wait for the first trimester to be over to share it with the world. You wonder 12 weeks is a long time but to your surprise it happens in the blink of an eye. Now during that time you begin to wonder: am I ready for this? You begin to make the necessary changes in your diet, environment and attitude to make the next 12 weeks the most comfortable for your baby. The planning begins. Comfortable clothes, shoes, pillows etc…You say things to yourself like “I have to make sure the baby is comfortable.” As we begin to become uncomfortable, we do everything is our power to make sure the baby is comfortable at any cost. Our desire to care for and protect our children is something we are born with and are completely unaware of until we see the first signs pregnancy.
Once you get a glimpse of the baby, taking your prenatal vitamins becomes a bit more enjoyable as you realize how strong the baby is growing with every passing minute. Now the 12 weeks are over, the morning sickness subsided and you are not as tired as you were in the first trimester. You did it! It’s time to move on to the second trimester, everyone around you notices your glow and you are free to say I am pregnant! By now you have a stack of books next to your nightstand trying to help you understand what in the world is going to happen next. Carrying and showing off the sonogram pictures becomes an event you look forward to almost daily. As a proud and growing mama you begin to show the world the beautiful wonder inside of you. Realizing that you, for the first time in your life are comfortable in your body (even though you are growing) becomes a treasure.
Enjoy, embrace, and fall in love all over again with the gift of motherhood and the art of being joyfully uncomfortable.
Written by Lluvya Jagtiani: Mom of two beautiful girls, Homeschooler and Blogger